The Wine Debate!

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

The other day, a few of our friends and Balazs had this interesting debate about hostess wine gifts and I would love to know what’s your stand on it, since it seems to be a slippery slope and it can be very awkward too, especially if you're in a multicultural crowd.

Lovelies, do you usually bring wine to a dinner party? Do you think it should be opened on that party or since it’s a gift for the hostess, it’s up to the hosts to decide if they want to open it or save it for another time?

Whenever Balazs and I have people over who bring wine, we always make sure to open the wine they brought but a friend who works in the wine industry told us that the actual rule is that the host should save the gifted wine for later since it’s considered a gift. In fact, in some cultures the guest could actually take offence if the gifted wine was opened during the party. Ha!

Now, onto you, I’m so curious! How do you do it?

Btw: Another friend said that in France the refill rule is that as soon as the host spots an empty wine glass, he must refill it immediately, so if you don’t fancy a refill, always leave just a bit in your glass. I love that!

P.S: And how to open a bottle of wine - without a corkscrew. (Genius!)
P.P.S: Tons more nifty wine tricks including this, this and that :)

(Photos via Brown Dress with White Dots and Murray Mitchell)

21 comments:

Anonymous said...

As you, we usually open the wine that someone brings in but we also have our own wine at hand that might go better with the food on the night. I've been on parties where the hosts didn't open the wine and I didn't really mind but I know that some people did. Very interesting about the refills. I will remember that for Easter time.

emily said...

I tend not to open gifted wine at dinner parties (nor do I expect my hostess to open it when I bring it), since a good hostess has probably thought carefully about wine pairing for the meal. =) If it is a potluck, I am more likely to open it. Also, if I specifically ask them to bring wine, that is another exception.

Jillian Manesh said...

i usually do not open wine that im given at gifts -- i dont mind using it, it's just that i usually already have wine that i bought specifically for the party so i'd like to use that. either way i really dont care tho! as long as something is flowing. i love friends who bring flowers! :) :) xo jillian - cornflake dreams

Art Farm said...

I agree with Jillian. I normally have something flowing, but I'm not adverse to opening the gift. And I don't mind what the hostess does when I give them a bottle. As long as we're together, drinking and have a good time! :) xo, Katie

Punctuation Mark said...

I always bring wine and the type is depending on the host. People like different types of wine so I try to bring what they want, especially it its just a dinner party instead of a larger gathering. Somehow, I've found that people like you to bring red wine more that they like white wine... unless it's summer and a nice cold one is the best thing ever!

little t said...

Love that label! As host gifts go, I'm a fan of the good old fashioned bottle of wine wrapped in a fancy teatowel.

Pamela Bates said...

crack me right up!!!

lauren jean allece said...

I think it is just so dependent on who you're bringing the wine to... More often than not, I assume the bottle will be saved for later because I don't know what the meal will be and don't want to mess up any pairings or anything. On the flipside though, a lot of times my friends who host will ask if it's ok to open the bottle then and there (to which I always reply "Of course! I brought it for you to enjoy whenever you want!"). I say just play it by ear and when in doubt, you always have more wine!

Claudz said...

I love the French and their ways.
We always have wine ready and sometimes it's planned for that evening (i.e. goes well with the food/weather/company). IF we receive a bottle of wine we always ask or leave it until later in the evening. I think it's polite to ask if it's for drinking now or a gift to be saved. Our friends sometimes say "save this one for a special night"

Claudz said...

I love the French and their ways.
We always have wine ready and sometimes it's planned for that evening (i.e. goes well with the food/weather/company). IF we receive a bottle of wine we always ask or leave it until later in the evening. I think it's polite to ask if it's for drinking now or a gift to be saved. Our friends sometimes say "save this one for a special night"

Claudz said...

I love the French and their ways.
We always have wine ready and sometimes it's planned for that evening (i.e. goes well with the food/weather/company). IF we receive a bottle of wine we always ask or leave it until later in the evening. I think it's polite to ask if it's for drinking now or a gift to be saved. Our friends sometimes say "save this one for a special night"

Anonymous said...

I generally ask friends to bring whatever they'd like to drink, then we serve those wines. if it is a gift then I don't open but if I ran out of my planned wines then I might switch to a gifted wine. When I gift wine then I tell the hostess whether it is to toast that night or to save for a special occasion

Steph said...

Tricky one. We always have a bottle of wine open when people arrive and if the drinking continues late into the night we might go for the gift.

Diana Mieczan said...

Thank you for all those brilliant comments!

Diana Mieczan said...

Anonymous, I love the refills part as well:) So nifty!

Diana Mieczan said...

Good points, Emily!

Diana Mieczan said...

Jillian, oh yes! I love flowers too.

Diana Mieczan said...

little t, wine looks so darn awesome wrapped in a tea towel, doesn't it?

Diana Mieczan said...

Pamela:)

Diana Mieczan said...

Love your comment, lauren jean allece!

Diana Mieczan said...

I like that a lot, Claudz!

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