How to stay happily married or have a great relationship?

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Back in April when Balazs and I celebrated our 10th anniversary in hopes to amuse me, a friend sent me over a link to an article about marriage (and relationships). To be honest, since April I have reread it a few times and even took a few tiny-little notes:). Lydia the awesomely cool lady behind this piece, decided to put in writing a little guide on how to stay married for 15 years on the day of her 15th wedding anniversary. The cool part is that it totally applies to relationships and not only married couples.

The part that appeals to me is that she speaks from real experience, it's written in a funny, witty way and her honesty is incredibly refreshing. So today I thought I’d share a few of her tips that I found hilarious but equally true:

* The old maxim that you shouldn't go to bed mad is silly. In the morning, eat some pancakes. Everything will seem better, I swear.

* In any fight, there is one person who is really mad, and one person who isn't that mad. That person should deflect the fight. Make a joke, do something stupid or corny, make the other person laugh.

* Don’t criticize or you better find the nicest, kindest way possible to tell her/him something negative. And even then, good luck convincing her/him!

* You should make it your life's mission to become the perfect sex machine exactly for him. And he for you.

I love the light-hearted spin on it, don’t you? Do you agree or disagree with those points? Did you get any great advice on relationships from your family, friends? Any marriage tips you’d like to share that work for you? How long have you been married or in a relationship? xo

P.S: And here is Bob Marley’s quote that I simply adore:

P.P.S: Also, this and this.

(Photos via Satsuki Shibuya and Quelle aventure. Quote via Wide Open Spaces)

32 comments:

thingsIlove said...

Ahhhh this is so good. :)

BellaGetsREal said...

I needed that quote this morning. Relationships are hard so its nice to put a little humor into it.

Anonymous said...

My husband and I are married for almost 5 years and the "sex machine" tip made me blush but in a good way. Also, the last quote is fantastic and I got all teary reading it. Ola

Morgan @ xoxo, me said...

These are great tips, and I love the lighthearted touch to them. Also, I've always loved that Bob Marley quote, and no matter how many times I read it, it always brings tears to my eyes!

Vintage Market Place said...

Hi Diana.
I have with my hubby for 12 years married 7. I don't know if she is being funny on the going to bed mad part, but I totally disagree is she isn't. It is horrible to go to be with anger it just makes the next morning even more uncomfortable.
Plus you have to think of if closing your eyes is the last time you would see the other, would you want your last encounter to be happy or mad?
My relationship advice I took from my family, was do everything the opposite they did. Seems to be working ;)
Amy

Inés said...

Ah relationships! My great-grandmother used to tell us (her great-granddaughters), always let him believe that it was his idea! I usually laughed about it wen a teen ager, but now after my nineteenth anniversary I can tell you IT WORK!!!
And that Marley quote...ah, Diana...I'm a helpless romantic and this is the kind of stuff that makes me cry!!!
Hope you’re all having a great week!!!
Big hugs, dear!
Inés

SimplyClassyMe.blogspot.com

Jess said...

Ooooh Love that Bob Marley quote. I think if people are looking for a "fairy tale" wedding, they have another thing coming to them. Marriage shouldn't be about the wedding (as beautiful as some may be). Marriage is about working through things with your Bestie through thick and thin. One of my favorite quotes: "Marriage should be like a slumber party with your best friend every night"

ElsaD said...

Read the article...SO GOOD! It does apply to any relationship! xoxo

Diana Mieczan said...

Bella, you are so spot on!

Diana Mieczan said...

Ola, each time I read that quote, I get super emotional as well. Btw: Congrats on almost 5 years:)

Diana Mieczan said...

I so agree about the quote, Morgan!

Diana Mieczan said...

Amy, I think what she means is that no matter if you stay angry with eachother in the evening or not, by next morning (and over pancakes) you both will realize that the whole fight was over a silly little thing and there was no need for it anyway. (That is how I took it)

Diana Mieczan said...

Btw Amy, cheers to the advice! It works for me too:)

Patricia Villamil said...

Such a great post. I wish I had a secret marriage tip, but I really don't. We just talk, a lot. And we are nice to each other. And when I'm mad or upset about something he did or said, then I allow myself to be mad for a few hours, and then I try to snap out of it. There's really no point at being mad for long. It guess it's healthy to argue and all, but make sure you make up as well.

HiLLjO said...

As a Rastafarian, the Bob quote is something we really believe in. I just shared advice for any lasting relationship with a friend the other day based on it.

Happy late anniversary! Wow, 10!!!

ElsaD said...

LOL...I just read Ines comment! It's SO right on! xoxo

Amber said...

That quote perfectly encapsulates what a working relationship really is.

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Designwali said...

great quote. Going on 10+ years too...no hard and fast rules really. Some days I like him & other days not so much. Real life I suppose!

Polly Rowan said...

i love the lightheartedness of this too. My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year and this was really interesting to read :) x

Michelle {lovely little things} said...

Great advice!

Punctuation Mark said...

a good article for all of us to remember!

Martie @ Spunkyrella said...

This is gorgeous! The Bob Marley quote hit home, I agree a 100%.

Oh and your guy does have an Hungarian name?! Mine too ;)

Dominika said...

Well, nothing new under the sun, but... HOW MUCH we do need such simple reminders on a daily basis. Even when in really happy relationship (mine is 11 years this month ;)) it's good to stop for a while, think and appreciate how blessed you are, that 'the perfect for you' stands by your side. Hugz.

Sini said...

Nice advices! We have been together (not married) for 6 years and I think the best thing in the relationship and how work it is daily things and being able to talk about everything!

little t said...

Bob- such a genius!

And I loved this, read it on another blog I think- I love the bit about fighting, it is so true!

Diana Mieczan said...

Inés, I LOVE your comment and it is SO true. Your great-grandmother is a very smart lady, indeed.

Diana Mieczan said...

How cool, Martie! Yes, Balazs is Hungarian.

Diana Mieczan said...

Thank you for all those AMAZING comments and a fantastic conversation....

Diana Mieczan said...

That is such a great quote, Jess and Patricia, I find talking things over very important too. It really works!

Tish said...

I really appreciate Bob Marley's quote. ♥

african woman said...

I really love Bob Marley's quote it really made a great impact to me. The message is so incredible. I also love how you share the tips about staying happily married for 15 years.
It's really true it's not just for the married couple but it is merely applicable to someone who is in a relationship. Specially dealing with fights. It's not easy to handle specially if both of you lose its temper.

Thanks for sharing this great post of yours!

filipina said...

Amazing quotes from Bob Marley! No one can compare his words of wisdom. I'm really inspired about the tips you've mention. I will surely remember this one and use it in the near future.

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