Big Day Dress Dilemma...Keep it or....?

Monday, July 12, 2010
Last weekend I stumbled upon this article in the NY Times. It was about brides selling their wedding dresses. What was very interesting is that many ladies bought more expensive gowns than they originally had in mind but sold them after the ceremony so they balanced their budget at the end of the day. To be honest, I never thought about it...although it makes sense. I know that a lot of girls want to keep their gowns nicely wrapped up in the storage as a memory. But now it seems that more and more of us opt for a dream dress for “the day” and then let someone also enjoy it!

What are your thoughts about it? Did you keep your dress or would you?

Kisses, Lovelies
xoxoxox

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54 comments:

Biana said...

hmmm, good question. But I think I already know the answer. I will keep it! I'd rather buy a less expensive dress and keep it, than a dress I can't really afford but sell it afterwards. No my dress will definitely be a keeper! Have a great monday! xx

Clare B said...

I think I'm too nostalgic to throw it away. I can still remember looking at my mum's wedding dress and her talking about the day. Would love to be able to do the same with my girls.

jemina said...

I didn't keep my wedding dress, in Asia it is BIG to just rent your dress, I don't know if they do that in the US, happy monday, swetie, xoxo

Flore said...

I'm not married yet, and have no idea of when THE day will be. But I'm sure that it will be impossible to me to sell my dress !!!!!!!!!!!

Kristin Hjellegjerde said...

I am getting married the 4th of September, and I think I will keep it, my mother kept her. I guess it is one thing to show for later in life?

Have a lovely day Diana!

jules @ The Diversion Project said...

man, that's a pretty image! i kept mine, i guess i was thiniing in case i had daughters, but then i had two sons!! : )

jxx

Cara said...

I think about selling my dress A LOT...but I think I will regret it if I do, so I probably never will ;)
<3

Valerie said...

That's such a great question, Diana. I go back and forth on this kne. My wedding dress is still hanging in a closet at my parents house and I haven't decided what to do with it. Haha. Hope you had a great weekend!

Xo
Valerie

Jess said...

Agreed - this is a tough one! I'm not sure I could part with mine, even though I will probably never wear it again...

xox

Krysten @ After 'I Do' said...

My dress is currently sitting in the guest bedroom closet at my parents' house. I thought about selling it because, honestly, I can't decide what else I would do with it. But for not it's just sitting and waiting.

Caroline of Salsa Pie said...

I've heard of this too and think that it's a great idea actually. In my case, my husband and I had a beach wedding in Boca Raton, Florida and I wore a short linen wedding dress from JCrew. It wasn't very expensive (our wedding was super low key). But for more expensive dresses, if selling it helps you to balance the budget and achieve other goals like buying a home etc, I am all for it.
2010 is all about being prudent in my opinion. ;)

xo and I always love your posts.

Erica said...

Personally, I did not spend a lot of money on my wedding dress because I had the mentality that it was for only one day and there are so many other expenses to worry about.
I purchased something that I LOVED for less than $500. I still have it and don’t feel bad about it. ; )
www.poolovesboo.blogspot.com

orange sugar home said...

great question. I actually donated my dress because I thought someone who couldn't afford or was very thrifty might enjoy wearing a barely worn gown. If I had spent thousands I would probably have sold it but I didn't so donating it was the perfect thing to do. Have a beautiful day!!

Kim@Chattafabulous said...

My gown stayed at my mom's for the longest time and is now home with me. I kept the husband all these years so the dress is too precious to sell!

Dancing Branflake said...

Definitely kept mine. I would love to make baby blessing dresses out of the train for my future little ones.

Keith said...

I would keep it. I think it's one of those things that you would cherish.

Lenore @ Lather. Write. Repeat. said...

I'm not married but I love the idea of picking up an amazing pre-loved gown, if it was the right style and fit for me. And I think re-selling a new gown is a great idea, donating is even better! It's just collecting dust otherwise...

XO
Lenore

Elle Sees said...

I want a dress that I'd wear again somehow. It seems like such a waste to wear it once!

D e g a i n e said...

That's a beautiful dress in the photo. I feel like everyone should have their own unique wedding dresses however selling it could def. help out those on a much lower budget

D E G A I N E

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THE ALTERNATIVE WIFE said...

It's a great question. I got married last September and I still have my dress hanging on my closet door. I have to figure out what to do with it...I'm undecided if I want to keep it or not...

Hope you had a fabulous weekend sweetie! xoxo

rebecca said...

having been in my dress less than 2 months ago, i know that i will never ever part with it. i had it custom made for the big day and it was nothing short of perfect. my little sister wants to wear on her wedding day (which won't be for many years to come) and whether she still wants to wear it by then, i know its something i want to keep in the family.

people are so in vintage and things their grandparents had growing up, we need to remember that our favorite things now will be vintage someday. we shouldn't deprive our grandkids of the opportunity to walk down the eisle in grandma's vintage dress.. cause it's just sooo 2010.

Naina said...

I have mine but have never worn it again. I cherish the all the pictures of I have. But then again, it was an Indian wedding so I actually wore one outfit for the wedding and one for the reception. Tough question!

Tayebug said...

I think people used to keep it to hand down to their daughters, but now, people want their own and don't want to wear the "family heirloom dress". I would sell it. I have enough pictures to remember it by.

Café Bellini said...

I've kept mine. I think we should renew our vows every few years so I can wear it again - and it would be a good reason to stay the same size!

Andrea said...

Its an interesting question. I think I would keep mine. It would be nice to pass it on to my daughter one day.

hip hip gin gin said...

I still have mine (at my parents house) but only because I have been too lazy to figure out what to do with it. I'm not really sentimental about it because there is no way I could wear it again, unless I have it remade into something else which I might actually do, and I would never assume my future daughter would want to wear it, the women in my family have very different tastes from one another. So I guess I am in the sell it camp. I've never been a fan of keeping something I can't enjoy just for the thought of it, you know?

Sara Szatmary said...

Interesting article- thanks for the link!

I see advantages to both. With selling it, you have the princess-for-a-day effect but without killing your bank account. However, when you save a beautiful dress it can become an heirloom. For example, we still have my grandmother's wedding dress from the 1940's and I plan to wear it on my special day.

So I guess it really boils down to what would mean more to you. I think both sound fabulous.

Ren- Lady Of The Arts said...

I am curious to know who would buy a used dress-

Don't get me wrong- I love previously loved clothes- My monkeys wear hand me downs but I would never even consider buying a second hand wedding dress-
With over 50 percent of marriages failing I would not want to 'wear' that energy on my wedding day-

I did not have a traditional wedding dress and I still have it after ten year and have worn it a twice since-

Jen said...

That's a gorgeous dress so I would never think about selling that gown.

To me a wedding dress symbolizes you so buying a used dress is not for me and selling one is not for me either. I've decided to keep my dress until I have a child and then I will have parts of the dress sewn into the proper chrisening gown. I have a friend whose a master sewer and loved the idea so that's the route I went. Keeping it in the family.

Though I spent less on the dress than I thought I would.

Diana Mieczan said...

Kim....hahahahha...good point:)

Silver Strands said...

In this day and age, pictures seem to last longer than dresses do .... but the sentimentality of being able to pass on your wedding dress to your daughter: sweet.
oxox
Denalee

Diana Mieczan said...

Café Bellini .....That is so true:)
hahaha

Vinda Sonata said...

nice question, diana, although this'll surely land as another dilemma for me-- in the end i'd keep the dress, perhaps, because of the memories in it has turned the dress priceless :)

Kristin said...

I kept mine. That reminds me...I need to get it preserved!

Lillian Chang said...

I've thought about this and realized how it's quite a dilemma. I haven't come up with a conclusion yet...on the one hand, you want your dress to be your dream wedding dream, but on the other hand - should you really be spending so much money on a dress you'll only wear once?
Well, I'm not getting married yet, so fortunately, I still have time to think about this :)
(I do love the Trash the Dress photography too...)

La Feem said...

That's quite a question. I can see how one would want to keep if for a daughter...other than that I'm all about reuse, recycle...I don't like anything sitting around collection dust! (but i'm not overly nostalgic....)

Meghan said...

I kept my dress. It's currently at my parent's house, and someday I hope to use it for a christening gown for my babies:)

C'est La Vie said...

i did keep my dress but i wish i had just rented it. i want it gone so bad, i've tried selling it many a times...blech

Couture Carrie said...

Oooooh fun topic, darling D!

I think if I ever got married, I would likely keep my gown :)

xoxox,
CC

Krystal said...

hmm....i kept mine - i have fun putting it on every now and then :)

Colleen said...

I was just talking about this! I think I might sell mine so someone else can enjoy it and it helps with the budget. I'm trying to have a more minimalist approach to life, so I figure why not? xo

Sarah from 20somethingcupcakes said...

Interesting. I don't know if I could bring myself to sell it. What about making it into a short dress that you could wear for an anniversary or vow renewal? Or giving it to your daughter? For me, something wouldn't feel right about selling it. I'd almost rather rent a dress! xxSAS

Poppies and Sunshine said...

I have never considered this option before! It actually is a very good idea depending on how much the dress was. I think it would depend how much in love the bride is with her dress. But, getting money back is always nice!

Ashleigh said...

I kept it, but I'm very sentimental that way! I wish my mom would've had hers so I could have incorporated it somehow. Instead she let me play in it when I was little :)

kelli g. { bug miscellany } said...

It is an interesting idea...
I kept my dress. I had it tailored down so much (since I'm only 5 feet tall), it wouldn't really fit many other people anyway. And I am still happy to know it's mine. :)

Anna Walker said...

I will be keeping my dress because it was made for my grandmother and my mother wore it too on her wedding day. So, I Could never ever get rid of it! If I were to by a new dress. I believe I would buy a casual enough one to be worn again!

Gina said...

i think it's a great idea to sell your dress, its not like your going to take it out of the attic and look at it very often :)

LyddieGal said...

I think I'm more apt to be the one buying the second hand dress... and then keeping it.

Chic on the Cheap

STEPHENIE WONG said...

a very beautiful wedding dress!!

Lady Grey said...

mine is still in my closet. Some of my girlfriends & I are thinking about having a wedding dress party one of these days!
oxo

Stephanie said...

I kept mine. Sort of. It's actually in a closet at my parents' house, since my husband and I didn't have room for it in our department. But we've been in our house for more than a year now and I still haven't brought it home. Oops??

Heather Taylor said...

I like that idea very much. Spread the happiness to other future brides!

Saphron said...

I sure wish I could sell my ugly bridesmaid dress...hmm...

bronwyn said...

I had 2 dresses - short for the ceremony and long for the banquet. I got them in Chinatown for $50 each. I still have them.

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